Barbara V Evers

Imagine you manage a restaurant.  It's been a busy night, so when a woman and her four children finish their meal but continue to sit there, you tell the staff to clear the table.  The family still sits there, until the youngest child, a cute toddler, starts to cry. The woman takes the baby out, admonishing the older children to behave and mind their manners.  After some time, you notice she hasn't returned, and one by one, the children have drifted out the door.  When the last ones move toward the exit, you follow and discover Mom hurrying to strap her children into a run-down car.  She tells you she's a single mom with a limited income.  She admits she ate in your restaurant, aware she couldn't pay.  What do you do? Some of you look at the facts, analyze it carefully, and use a logical, objective approach to the decision.  Maybe if she told you first, you might have done something for the family, but she didn't. Letting her do this without a...

I found the perfect table, but the color was a shade or two lighter than my chairs.  I liked the contrast.  The question was would my husband? When he arrived at the store to look at the table, I waited for him to point out the color contrast...but he didn't.  While I had evaluated the overall look and checked how to put in and take out the extra leaf, his first action was to turn the table over.  Yep.  Upside down. Why? I asked.  To check its construction. Made of heavy wood, with thick legs and impressive gears to slide apart the ends of the table, I had no doubt the table was solid.  It never occurred to me to look at how it was put together.  Yet, here was my husband checking the nuts and bolts that held this table together.  After extensive checking, he turned the table back over, sat in our chair and pulled up to the table.  Well, duh!  I compared the overall look of the table with my chairs, but it hadn't occurred to me t...

I can't believe she just said that!  What was she thinking? That guy? He doesn't care.  He never participates in the discussions, anyway. These are common, inaccurate responses we have to people because we misunderstand their communication styles.  The funny thing is the way they communicate has more to do with what energizes them than whether or not they have thought about what they are saying or whether they should speak at all. According to the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), all people have a preferred energy source.  You prefer to be energized by one of the following: Interacting with the outer world of people and things Focusing on internal thought and reflection Neither method is wrong, and to some extent, everyone uses both of these methods; however, we tend to show preference in one direction over the other.  Over the years, you have probably heard of extroverts and introverts.  For the moment, forget the dictionary definitions of ...